Thursday, June 19, 2008

Where Is My Soul?

I cannot tell you how many nights I lay half-asleep... that realm where you Want to go to sleep, but just can't... So, as I lay there, I imagine myself in a 'safe place'...I imagine myself in a hiding place, where I can just get some peace of mind. And I say my prayers, but I don't think that's too effective in a direct sense... But in those long nights and extreme dreams, I was awake about 4 AM and all I could ask myself was, 'where is your soul?' where is it located? is it in the middle of your brain? in your chest?...is it spread out everywhere? where do you feel it the most? Lying in bed in the middle of the night, I had no immediate answer, but memories of childhood... happiness... being carefee as a child came to mind...the back seat of the car all to myself, while my parents rode in front and did all the thinking and worrying, so that train of thought ended and I'll try and do that again... Maybe the soul has no real physical location, but exists in memories such as that one, or exists in every visceral experience, like in everything we do and see, like leaves on a tree, we all see each other and wave and acknowlege each other.
I tried to pinpoint the location of my soul, but realized there is no real location, it flows all around.

Monday, March 03, 2008

My Songs

Everyone has their favorite movies... judging from dvd sales, people buy them these days almost as much as they rent them. They are surely buying their favorite movies... I am one of those... I buy a dvd because I want to see it over and over, or I will save a movie on Tivo, for the same reason.

Because watching a favorite film, simply, is like listening to a favorite song... you just want to experience it over and over... I totally understand those who say, "geez, I've already seen that, why would I watch it again?" My own parents were a perfect example, I would send them dvd's or vhs tapes of films I knew they liked, "ummm, thank you danny, but we already saw these.."

It's ironic, because I know my mom likes to re-read books, like after five years she'll go back and read it again...For me, once I finish a book it's all done. And that's an example.. and.. an understanding of how people might feel about experiencing the same thing over again.... It takes a lot more time to read a book than watch a movie, and of course, a certain attention span, myself included... My Movies include epics, some are 3 hours long or longer, so I just watch them mini-series style... or I will fast forward to good scenes....and watch them again... nd again... like favorite song.

Friday, January 11, 2008

Uncle Joe

My Uncle Joe went in for heart surgery yesterday, a septuple bypass!...He's the last living uncle I have, and the last bastion of an era... I'm sure Uncle Joe will be fine..he's one of those 'tough guys' you may have known...cocky and with a swagger...but deep down, very caring and generous.

When I was little, I would stay over at Aunt Carmen and Uncle Joe's during summer months, with my cousins, little Joe and Joanne, it was almost like a second family...Uncle Joe ruled the roost...and aunt Carmen wasn't far behind...He and my dad were brothers-in-law, and they were fast friends from the beginning, back in the 50's...it was HE who went with my dad to get hamburgers the morning I was born. I'm almost confused about what to write here.... obviously I hope and pray for his recovery...but I must admit, I was always intimidated and a little afraid of him when I was a kid...he was a stern disciplinarian...as some parents were, my dad included...

He has always been a hard worker, and again, back in the 60's when the G.I. Joe toys came out, me and my cousin, little Joe had a blast...playing war with those things...
"Hi Girls! playing with dolls again?" Uncle Joe would say....
The toughest part came around 1980, when I had kinda long hair and he couldn't help but comment, "hello hippie!" when I arrived, much to the consteration of myself and others.

But here is the dichotomy, after I graduated from college, he went out of his way to get me a job...he took me on a personal tour of FMC in San Jose, where he was a plant manager... and he spoke to me on personal terms, which he never had before. Uncle Joe is what you would call a 'conservative'....a staunch Republican...and...sometimes quite frankly an ol' redneck...but right now, all I know is that he's in bed. recovering....

Here's the cool thing about uncle Joe....he has an intelligence, or a self-awareness at least, to the point where he recognizes his current situation and will have the mind-set to heal quickly....he's that tough...

Tuesday, January 08, 2008

Me and My Arrow

There's a really fun song by Harry Nillson, about a boy and his dog, and the words go...

"Me and my Arrow
takin' the high road
where ever we go
everyone knows
it's Me and my Arrow"

It's rather obscure, but I was humming that tune the other night while driving home, at the same time looking at the voltage meter. My truck needs a new alternator, so until I have enough cash to get it serviced, I have to swap out batteries and recharge them to just keep it running...

I apologize to my truck, as I do every day when I get in it, to go to work. I began to associate that song with my truck, like a faithful companion, like a faithful old dog. Then something amazing happened, "Me and My Arrow" came on the radio! What are the odds?! It was a 'God is in your radio' moment... and my truck seemed happy, as if it was saying, "don't worry, I know you'll fix me, and I'll always get you where you need to go...if I can."

Me and my truck go way back. I bought it brand new back in 1984, when it had only 6 miles on it. A 1984 Toyota 4x4... It came in sooo handy! (and still does). I remember about a couple weeks after I bought it, my buddy Mike and his girlfriend Berta came to visit, and Mike insisted on riding in the back... that was back when it was legal to do so...as I looked in the mirror as we went down the freeway, his eyes were sooooo wide, like he was on a roller coaster... I don't think he realized that this was a 'light' truck, not a full-sized bed like the Ford trucks... but he was cool... he's kind of a 'tough guy' but I'll never forget his face on his roller coaster ride.

I cannot count how many times I've helped people move... and I know what a pain in the butt is to move... but as long as it's not myself moving, I actually enjoy helping people move, it's like a fun outing, and it's always nice to feel 'useful'...

Back then, my friend Patty who I worked with would move about once or twice a year, so...I was naturally enlisted to help her. In 1987, my roommates' twin brother in Pleasant Hill was moving into a new house, and it seemed only natural... and a year later a buddy from Spectrum Holobyte needed moving. 'Me and My Arrow' again... and this was still back in the 80's!


There was only ONE time when the truck cut out on me, just the one time... on Christmas Eve no less! It was Christmas Eve 1987 and I was driving down to Tulare, CA where my parents live... but on hiway 99 the engine started cutting out, but would still rev on lower speeds... I called my parents' house, and like Knights, my dad and uncle Toody came to look for me... and searched up and down 99 until they found me on the shoulder, limping along ...they towed my poor little truck to the house.

The next day... my uncle tore the engine apart...he was an aircraft mechanic so he totally knew what he was doing, and seemed to relish in it. After cleaning the fuel lines and carburator, the three of us put it all back together, "okay, let's take it for a test ride."

So me and my uncle drove off... "pull onto the freeway.." so we did, and the truck seemed to run fine.

A car passed us at a much faster rate, like around 80 or 90.

"okay follow that guy"
"are you sure?"
"yeahhh, let's go."
"but the speedometer only goes to 85."
"don't worry about it, it'll go faster, let's go, floor it!"
So I did, silently saying 'sorry, truck' but at the same time admiring my uncle, not a sentimental man, but I admired his confidence in mechanics, and how machines can, and should work.

I didn't have my truck this whole time, but it stayed in the family. In 1990 I bought a sporty little convertible, and at that time, my dad was in the market for a truck, so he bought it, and he had it for 11 years... and took good care of it. That's just one of many things I learned from him (and uncle Toody!)...to always take care of your cars. Change the oil, that's the big thing.

Unfortunately my dad passed away in 2001, later my mom said, "why don't you just take your truck back? it just sits here." So I drove it back, and now here we are again, Me and my Arrow...to this day it comes in handy hauling stuff, still helping with moves, even myself!

And numerous times, I get people who say, "hey! you wanna sell your truck?"
It appears the Toyota trucks from '78 to '86 were a good batch...in demand, because they were just built good... I get waves from other guys in Toyota trucks of that era on the road...

I'll fix it as soon as I can...I owe it that much. Me and My Arrow.

Tuesday, January 01, 2008

Storm Clouds

There's clouds overhead.... Thunderhead clouds that block the light of day. Not only for me, but everyone around me, and in the world. They seem to be gathering in an endless overture. The other day I saw one of the bright lights of hope and democracy in the middle east get assassinated...like John and Bobby Kennedy,a figure of hope and promise just cut down, but this time in a volatile country that has nuclear weapons. This is the state of the world these days, and I worry about these things...

I worry about the ice on the North Pole, melting at an alarming rate, 'The Arctic is screaming' say most environmental scientists.Polar bears may become extinct in the wild soon. I think global warming is here...

I worry that the top 1 percent of Americans make billions,meanwhile the middle class is squeezed more and more just to make ends meet.

I worry that that the near 400 BILLION dollars spent (so far) on the war in Iraq is mostly borrowed from China...no war bonds like in World War 2, most Americans can't or wouldn't buy those things for this war... a war without end, based on lies, it's a quagmire...

But mostly I worry about people I'm connected to... people who I'm close to who are sick, and I've been praying for them...and, yes well myself too... I'm not physically sick, but I'm soul-sick....I have been for some time now.... just, diminished. I find myself praying alot lately, and try to feel what it means,not just recite words... In some ways I think they're answered to some measure, but I think biggest answer is Hope... As these storm clouds gather...all around the world and in our lives... I have Hope it's gonna be okay... and I THINK it will! And in the new year instead of wanting to get back to better days, or wishing to... it's better to INTEND to.

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Guardian Angels

I believe in Guardian Angels, not necessarily the 'Angels from Above' stereotype in movies or books, but the very notion that there is such a thing. I've read stories about people's guardian angels...for example, a motorist who suddenly felt the urge to change lanes, just as a truck lost his tractor load right in front of where he would have been..."It must have been my guardian angel" he said....

And I think it might be true...and I think these angels might be all around us,all the time. Sometimes I think they just manisfest themselves in our lives...all the time, but sometimes we just don't notice.

Back in 1988, I went with my friend Mary to a 'psychic faire' in which you explore booths that offer past-life readings, 'auras' read, and all that kinda thing...I've always been open minded about metaphysical things, but was skeptical at the time, I had never been to one of these 'faires' and suspected alot of these folks were just charlatans... until I actually spoke to some... "you had a terrible injury recently, haven't you?" well, yes, I had...I had broken my leg and then some, but how would she know that?

It wasn't from the limp, I didn't have one by then... "You have Women around you... your ancestors... I see them waving... they want to help you, and they do"... hmmmm, yes well...okay.

But Then! I realized, in the very crucial moments of my life, it was true...it has always been Women...they have always saved my life....Why? I don't know, do I deserve this? right now I'm not so sure...

When I was a tiny little kid, I remember a day when a ton of little toy cars were promised to me by my mom, that her customer had given her....but she had forgotten to bring them home that day, and I cried like a spoiled child.... so she drove all the way back to work and got them for me. That's just a simple example of how loving and kind she has always been, countless times even to this day, as she has helped me out during my recent struggles.

In 1983 I was fresh out of school and applied to an ad in the San Jose Mercury newspaper about an illustrator job.... I got an interview and went in, Adria interviewed me.... she said later that she was impressed that I wore a suit, but mostly that my artwork was good, and that she 'liked me'...that, to me was the most important thing, that she liked me, I was sooo happy! Her hiring me was like a foot in the door to my career as an artist. After I was laid off, she continued to hire me on a freelance basis and I kept going.

In the 80's I would always feel lonliness, I was on my own and I missed my friends from college. I didn't really know anyone in the East Bay where I lived...oh, I suppose I could have joined a 'volunteer group' or whatever, but it wasn't me, I've always had a shyness that is sometimes a hinderance even now, but especially back then... I got a contracting job at an engineering firm in 1986 and there was a great group of people there! They had a sense of humor and banter that I soaked up like a sponge. One girl, Mimi, had a fun circle of friends and she was nice enough to invite me to her Halloween party...from then on, I became one of her circle, to this day...

On August 25, 1988 I had a bad accident... I fell off the fire escape of the apartment I was living at the time in Oakland. I fell 30 feet to concrete steps and basically broke the left side of my body...and you could have set your watch to it.. a minute later a woman came by and I asked "can you call 911 for me?"

She was awesome. She rushed back to her mom's and they called 911, then they both came back and stayed with me until the ambulance arrived...they were guardian angels, right there... at the right time. Fast Forward a year or so... I got a job at a great place with a ton of great people...I had the difficult task of interviewing new artists..... it was a time when 'let's get any warm body in here' was the norm... I interviewed a charming woman from South Africa, Vicky, whose work was sufficient enough that I hired her... 4 months later she quit, having found a better paying job in Marin. About a year later I got laid off again, so I networked and made some calls... I called Vicky and I'll never forget the conversation, it was so simple, "Hi Vicky I was just calling to let you know I'm no longer working at Spectrum Holobyte." "Oh! great! when can you come in??"

So that was it... two days later I came in and was hired. Mike, the manager said 'Vicky kept singing your praises and your stuff looks good'...so once again.... saved by a woman... Well those were good years, and during that time, I was working on a football game. I was the only artist on the project, while other projects had 3 to 4 artists...I was under some stress with the workload, and finally Dave said, 'can you find another artist to help you?'...and sure enough...you could have set you watch to it... 10 minutes later a girl named Shawn came by and said, "do you need help in Football?" I literally raised my eyes and said 'thank you!'.... Shawn was a Guardian Angel then, and especially now... she has become my close friend, has welcomed me into her wonderful family, and has been my buddy, and has saved me in so many ways,through good times and bad... she is a ray of sunlight and color in an otherwise gray world these days, and I love her for that...

These are my guardian angels... I think my female ancestors are still waving.

Thursday, November 29, 2007

Still Walkin'

About two years ago, I started a blog called 'I Went For a Walk', which
was to chronicle the events when I sold my house. As Blogger changed formats, I've
had a hard time logging on to my old blog...hopefully soon I can get back on, sometimes
I come close...
Anyway, where to begin?!?....well I'm still on that raft, treading water...I
live from day to day, never allowing myself to dwell on the seriousness of the situation,
just happy to still be here, with a roof over my head, food to eat...but lately
I've been realizing that this no way to go through life....with an elephant
in the room.
I got a 'survival job' at a grocery store, which I wouldn't recommend to anyone,
it's hard work and the pay is low, but in a certain way it has breathed a bit
of life into what was an otherwise stagnant existence...I've never been what
you'd call a 'people person', pretty much an introvert, but I've
always had good social skills...that is, I can converse with a certain wit and banter
with just about anyone, some more that others, but I just don't Thrive off of
it like extroverts can. I admire and envy extroverts, I wish I could be one, but
it's not in my makeup or personality or DNA or whatever...Anyway, as hard as
it sometimes is, I think there is some good in my doing this, because I get out
there, WAY out of my comfort zone and face the public each day. At first it was
hard, but it gets easier...like I mentioned before, some people I can instantly
connect with...so let me use this as a first step, as a positive thing.
I've always used the 'Raft on an Ocean' metaphor to describe my situation...to
enhance the metaphor, I can say that this ocean I'm in, is an ocean of denial.
Did I ever really need to be in a raft at all?
Well what's done is done...I dare not look back and think of what might have
been, if I did that, I would surely be a bitter person who looked at life darkly,
full of regret...I won't go there, nuh-uh...
I can only go from here, and thank God for the good things I do have...my dear mother,
my dear friends, and everyone else in what has been a sweet life overall.